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Understanding Your Partner's Love Language - Gary Chapman

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My conclusion after many years of marriage counseling is that there are five emotional love languages — five ways that people speak and understand emotional love.


Words of affirmation
One way to express love emotionally is to use words that build up. Solomon, author of ancient Hebrew Wisdom Literature, wrote, "The tongue has the power of life and death" (Proverbs 18:21, NIV). Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other.

Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation, such as:

"You look sharp in that suit."

"Do you ever look incredible in that dress! Wow!"

"I really like how you're always on time to pick me up at work."

"You can always make me laugh."

Words of affirmation are one of the five basic love languages. Within that language, however, there are many dialects. All of the di…

10 Tips for Choosing the Right Partner

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I recently read an article in Psychology Today called "10 Tips to Help You Pick a Good Partner'' by Dr. Barton Goldsmith. What really jumped out at me was this line: "Picking the right person for the right reasons at the right time is an art form." I cannot think of a more accurate statement in one sentence that sums up dating. With the divorce rates as high as they are, it makes sense that it takes the right person, right time and right reasons to make a fulfilling and strong relationship. I love Dr. Goldsmith's tips, and as a nice complement, I wanted to write my own:

Don't make choices out of fear:
So many times people either choose a partner or stay with someone in an unhappy relationship predominantly out of some kind of fear. Usually that fear is being alone but fears can vary widely from person to person. It's often better to be alone and wait for the right person than to make a decision out of fear. Making decisions out of fear leads to confu…

Relationship Goals That Will Make Your Love Stronger

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Human beings are wired to want intimate relationships; to love and be loved. Whether you’re in an established long-term relationship or in the first wonderful months of new love, doing some routine relationship maintenance is just a good idea. 
While every relationship is unique, there are a few tried and tested practices that can often help in giving just about any relationship a boost.  Use these relationship goals tips to go next level and make your bond stronger. And even if they don’t work perfectly for you the first time, hopefully, they can be a starting point from which you can be inspired and maybe use as a springboard to try some similar techniques that work for you and your partner specifically. After all, the secret to a happy relationship is often nothing more than just a little bit of effort.
Ten relationship goals tips to make your bond stronger
Make sure to communicate Communication is one of the top relationship goals to keep your bond strong. Everything from a simple tex…

Why You’re not Getting What You Want in Your Relationship - Chris Cummins

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You’ve been chasing what you want in your relationship for so long and you feel like you’ll never get it! You have a picture of your perfect relationship but for some reason it’s not coming to life. Your partner isn’t doing what they’re supposed to do and you keep getting frustrated. There are some big answers for why your “perfect relationship” is not happening – here they are!

No Clear Goals
If you want a happy marriage with attraction, fun, and intimacy – then you likely won’t get it. Guess why? That’s right! It’s way too general. How will you know when you’re marriage is happy? What signs would tell you that you’re attracted to one another? Does “fun” mean the same thing to you both? Do you both have the same idea of intimacy and/or how often intimacy should happen?

When you picture what you want in your relationship, create a very clear picture. If you want attraction, say “I’d look at my partner, they’d look me in the eyes, and we would feel the same connection as we did when we…

Surviving & Coping with a Break-Up

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When you’re coping with a break-up, whether from a good relationship or a bad one, it can be hard to know what will make you feel better. There are things you can do that will help with the process of healing and help you to cope.

This can help if:
you're going through a break-upyou’ve already gone through a break-up you want some coping strategies for when a relationship is ending you’re moving on from a bad relationship.
Tips for coping with a break-up
Yep, breaking up is hard to do. When a relationship ends, it’s normal to feel a sense of loss, as though something is missing from your life. But there are things you can do that may help you feel better.

Take time to heal

It can be difficult to come to terms with what’s happened. Don’t expect to bounce back to your old self immediately. Accept that you’ll have good days and bad, but that it will get better in the end.

Get your confidence back

Make time to do the things that you enjoy – whether that’s hanging out with friends, going to…

4 Things Every Christian Should Know about the Rapture - Dr. David Jeremiah

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The study of the End Times and the rapture can cause questions, apprehension, and fear. "Why do I need to study prophecy?" "It is too complicated, and I don't understand what it means." "It makes me anxious and nervous." I will not argue with the fact that studying prophecy can be complex and overwhelming. It is difficult to see how these obscure passages can have any significance for us today. They appear to lack relevance to what we are going through right now. If we continue with this mindset, we will miss the rich truth God has provided for us. We cannot understand where we are now if we don’t understand where we are going.

To help you begin developing an understanding and appreciation for this difficult topic, I have compiled biblical answers to four of the most frequently asked questions about the Rapture.

What signs indicate that the End Times are near?
The Rapture—the raising of the Church into heaven (1 Thessalonians 4:17)—is the next event on t…

Interesting & Attractive People - Dr Travis Bradberry

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Interesting people have a special magnetism. They become attractive. They tell incredible stories and lead unusual lives. But what exactly makes them so captivating, & attractive? They’re curious more than anything else. An interesting person is always excited to explore the world, and this energy radiates outward. Some people are naturally interesting, but there are also ways to learn to be more engaging. Dr. Clair Nixon is known throughout Texas, USA, A&M as an incredibly interesting accounting professor (an oxymoron if there ever was one). Accounting is a difficult subject to make interesting and fun, which is what makes Dr. Nixon so special. He’s so good at making things interesting that he doesn’t just teach accounting, he also gives lectures on how to be more interesting there by becoming attractive. Indeed, anyone can learn to become more interesting which translates in to attractiveness, which is a wonderful thing, because being interesting and attractive can help you str…